Dating high maintenance men
They just had no idea what it took to look good at 50.Hair alone can be a full time job, whether its plucking it from places you never knew hair could grow or coloring it constantly just to hide the grey.Smith figured it comes down to science: “It probably has something to do with the concentration of the species on procreation,” she quipped.All scientific notions aside, older women opt for younger men for the same reasons that older men select younger women. Yes, I'd dated men three to five years younger but it felt like men 10 to 20 years younger were living on a different planet. I must admit the latter, known as Cougar Dating, was a little hard for me to wrap my head around even as a Dating Coach.And since men have been dating younger women for ages, why are so many of us surprised — shocked, even — that women would follow suit?Valerie Gibson, author of Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating Younger Men, is all too familiar with this double standard. They were absolutely horrified that older women should be having sex with younger men.”When many of us think “cougar,” we picture the ultimate cougar of the big screen: The Graduate’s legendary, martini-sipping Mrs. These days, real-life cougars are stars like Demi Moore (who, in her 40s, married then-twenty-something heartthrob Ashton Kutcher), the coiffed reality-show cast of The Real Housewives of Orange County, and, yes, everyday women — suburbanites and city-slickers alike.
No, we want to be wined and dined at nice restaurants, and for some of us only the best will do.*Editor’s note: Names of some of the interviewees have been changed for privacy.Annette Wheeler* didn’t recall the exact moment she first heard the term “cougar,” but she did remember dashing to her computer to look it up.I shared one of those funny Facebook photos recently that said, "Madonna is 55, her boyfriend is 22. I had to laugh at the high maintenance comment I heard time and time again from these young men. Back when I was in my 40s, younger men would write me online all the time and I'd always say, "Are you looking for a mom? " They just felt younger women were too high maintenance for them and had far too much drama in their lives.